Posts in Forgiveness/Letting Go
No More Cool Girl BS For Me

“As a woman, in my first serious, and only relationship up to that point, I had an unfailing drive to just ‘make it work.’ That meant ignoring red flags and warning signs and forging on with determination to hunker down and be the best girlfriend in the world. (Whatever that meant.) Surely he would appreciate me then, once I was perfect…”

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A Refocusing of My Energy: How an Instagram Challenge, a Grandmother With Dementia, and The Loss of a Friend Helped Me Refocus

"‘Last summer was still a phase of frustration riddled with questions like, ‘where’s my car?’, statements like, ‘THEY took my house’, and just not wanting help at times despite desperately needing it. This summer there are fewer questions fueled by anger and more confusion, but…”

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On Forgiveness/Letting Go: Revisiting a Painful Relationship Years Later

“He changed as soon as we married; he had it in his mind that marriage meant he owned me. I lived with him and his family and never had a voice of my own. There were cultural boundaries, but the worst of it was his emotional and physical abuse toward me. At the time, I felt I had nowhere to go…”

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The Emotional Economics of Forgiveness

“Years later, it’s difficult for me to tell my current husband that I love him.  It’s difficult to wring out the vulnerability required to engage in emotional intimacy.  The experience of being in love with a socially inept pathological liar, who once held a revolver to his head as he sat in bed beside me, will do exactly that…”

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