Posts tagged love
Are You There Molly Ringwald? Or Looking For Life Answers In Film Fiction

“The rejection from my first crush was earth shattering! In the aftermath, I turned to my trusted 80’s movies for comfort but found it harder to relate to them for the first time. I looked for answers in Molly Ringwald films because they typically featured characters who were ordinary and struggled with normal teenage insecurities, but somehow, they always landed the guy at the end of the movie…”

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First Love: A Misunderstanding

“This boy was older and could undoubtedly sense that I was after love, romance, the real deal. Naturally, he shamelessly used this to his advantage. As a seventeen-year-old girl who had been brought up with happily married parents and watched and read as many romantic films and books as I had, I was blind to this boy’s hidden agenda and ignorant of the precariousness of the situation…”

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It's Called Your First Love for a Reason: On Letting Go of Someone You Never Really Had

“‘This is a bad idea...,’ he mumbled between kisses. ‘Why?’ I asked but I knew exactly why. His gaze settled on mine, lingering longer than it ever had before as he said, ‘I’m already scared of how deep this could get. Besides the fact that we work together, I’m too old for you and your parents are going to hate me.’ They absolutely did…”

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Oriental Blossom: Dating as a Japanese Woman In The Whitest City In America

“As I reflect on how I defined love three years ago to my healthy view today, I am still coming to terms with these two conflicting cultures. I consciously search for these cultural crossroads between American and Japanese culture. Admittedly, like any relationship you cannot help whom you are attracted to and who you fall in love with…”

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No More Cool Girl BS For Me

“As a woman, in my first serious, and only relationship up to that point, I had an unfailing drive to just ‘make it work.’ That meant ignoring red flags and warning signs and forging on with determination to hunker down and be the best girlfriend in the world. (Whatever that meant.) Surely he would appreciate me then, once I was perfect…”

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A Refocusing of My Energy: How an Instagram Challenge, a Grandmother With Dementia, and The Loss of a Friend Helped Me Refocus

"‘Last summer was still a phase of frustration riddled with questions like, ‘where’s my car?’, statements like, ‘THEY took my house’, and just not wanting help at times despite desperately needing it. This summer there are fewer questions fueled by anger and more confusion, but…”

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The Idea of Us, Part I: Best Friends On The Highs and Lows of Female Friendships

“Female relationships can be the most important relationships in a woman’s life, but they can also be the most painful. Female friendships allow us the space to be authentic with ourselves and each other. When they end, women lose that safe space to be authentic. Losing that intimacy can make you feel vulnerable, shamed, and raw…”

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